In personals or dating site profiles to read more and more that a partner is required "without the past".
I ask myself, what are these contaminated sites and how to become the go or is it that really ever happened?
I suppose that is meant that the partners should conclude with his previous relationship, so that we can go together to a new future. This naturally requires that
- we do not continue with the ex-partners communicate
- not upset because you are still affected by the separation too much and you now for a divorce, the children and finance and the distribution of shared possessions
struggles - one has processed the necessary injuries occurred from the last relationship and now emotionally and mentally free.
the desire for a partner without legacy I can well understand, finally, you will not be dragged into the old Troubel with pure or games console or psychologist. And just when one has fallen in love, but you want to spend a lot of harmonic and time with his new partner. to have processed
the desire for it to quickly return to have a partner without the old relationship really, I can understand that.
However, I believe that many of the emotional legacy of a relationship are going not as fast and certainly not after a short time and without working on it. In a new partnership reminds many of the old partners, either from the gestures and facial expressions or the situations experienced either positive or negative.
And if there was suspicion and lies in the old partnership, which is usually taken with the new partnership. Because the more the trust, which has been enhanced in a man is disappointed, the more suspicious is the man. Since it takes a lot of positive experiences and a good dose of confidence and trust is restored.
And when the partnership was quite wonderful for someone, then he needs some time to absorb the loss.
All this should not displace be. Feelings should be felt and lived through, or they are deposited in the body and can make or break ill later in the most impossible situations again. verdÃĪngt is more, the more violent it comes to later on.
And people tend to just intense feelings often to the denial of that think it is all that bad and throw themselves after a short time in a new relationship and experience with the new partners return to their old patterns.
at all our partners are often our mirror. To view our needs (eg, on the strength and comfort, for fun and distraction), what we lack in life and show our emotional Behavior patterns.
my opinion, it is no accident, who do we have as a partner, because we automatically look for someone with similar experiences can be made, as before, until we have learned from a pattern (which can take a long time) and we then only ripe for a different kind of relationship.
We are often marked in the search for partners from the "baggage" of our childhood. We are looking for a strong "father" or a caring "mother."
are now some may alarm and say "No, I do not". But it's worth, sometimes about his "partner scheme" to worry and think about what the partner has to offer, or possibly be expected of him, what you either know and love from childhood and lived there or what you have missed.
conclusion of my contribution today: Think about
conscious about your relationship and to your feelings and needs and speak to each other about it.
Take heed that your after a separation is not immediately goes into a new relationship but working on the remaining negative feelings.
you Begebt not from a lack of internal out into a new relationship. This is also the other to possibly a little unfair if he was not "loved" for its own sake but is primarily used as is to balance your inner deficiency.
meeting well-being - Wellness for body, mind and soul 
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